Compiled and edited by Shawn Nowlin
How would you describe yourself to someone who has never met you?
Honestly, my passion is sometimes mistaken for being intense. I simply love hard, and try to maintain and work diligently while I’m trusting God even harder. I can’t tie my shoes without him. I’m in no way perfect. I make mistakes, I fall, I hurt…but I keep pushing. I love to laugh, and I love to build relationships.
Where were you born and raised? What was your upbringing like?
I was born in Norfolk in 1978. Oh, what a great year to be born! My parents – Thomas Hairston Sr. and Juanetia Hairston – were both in the military. My dad, who has since passed, was originally from Roanoke. We moved here when I was about four. I had two brothers and two sisters. In the past year, we have lost our oldest sister, Cherry Sun, and brother, Thomas Hairston Jr. It’s been a rough year. Growing up, I split my time between both cities. Every holiday, school break, and summer, we were in Norfolk with my maternal family, staying with my great-grandmother, whom we affectionately called “BigMa.” I am blessed to have had BigMa, my Grandma Shirley, her daughter and Granddaddy Tony in my life. They were all true gems.
After high school, what was the next chapter in your life?
Life during and after high school was a bit challenging. I faced depression, health issues, and it took me a really long time to find my footing. I got married right after high school, and was also a teen mom. I had four children by 22. Statistically, I shouldn’t be doing what I’m doing now, but by God’s grace, I am. My oldest daughter, who is a part of that chapter, is now thriving, married and made me a proud grandma to a beautiful grandson named Joah.
How important is family to you?
Play with them and find out! Lol. Family is very important to me – I can’t emphasize that enough. I just recently celebrated 17 years of marriage with my husband, Anthony, and together, we share six children. It’s important to pour into your family. God ordained family for a reason, and after him, they can get it all.
What are some of your favorite City of Roanoke memories?
Definitely the Henry Street Festival! That was my first major stage outside of church, and I’ll never forget that feeling. I was in a group called “Full Harmony,” which consisted of two sets of sisters. Also, hanging out with my neighborhood friends, who are still family to this day. Making up dance routines at “The Abbott,” playing basketball and just being a kid. Directing the William Fleming Gospel Choir under Charlene Fisher and earning first-place honors is another memory that I deeply cherish. I remember opening shows for major artists who came to the city. I was young and full of energy, which I’d like to think I still am.
Which people have had the biggest impact on your life outside of your family?
Charlene Fisher, my high school choir teacher, made a huge impact on my life. When I had my daughter, she actually called the hospital with words of encouragement. She wanted me to be part of the gospel choir. At the time, I wasn’t sure. Mrs. Fisher trained me and believed in me, even when I didn’t believe in myself. She showed me what real love and mentorship looked like.
Coach “Kila” Miller was another one. He showed up for me time and time again and made sure I had all the tools needed to lead. He was so much more than just a coach. I think of him often and truly miss him.
There’s also Bishop Shadrack Brown Jr. – my pastor at Garden of Prayer #7. He was like a father, grandfather, uncle, and friend all in one who happened to be the shepherd over my soul. I could call him at 2 a.m., and he would answer, listen, and pray for me. I can’t tell you how much I miss him. What he helped plant is still growing.
What is your official title, and what do your responsibilities consist of?
I’m the Director of Operations at the Science Museum of Western Virginia, located in the Center in the Square in downtown Roanoke. I work closely with our Executive Director, Mary Roberts Baakos, maintaining a clear understanding of strategic planning efforts and long-term goals.
My role involves advocating for staff and departmental needs, overseeing events and special events, managing exhibits and handling various business responsibilities. I also oversee the museum floor and Human Resources. It’s a multifaceted position with many moving parts. What I love most is seeing how each department connects to create an amazing visitor experience.
Outside of your profession, what brings you joy in life?
Music is a big part of my life. I love teaching it, listening to it, and being surrounded by it. I also love creating, dancing with my nieces and playing board and trivia games. Let’s just say I’m still undefeated at Ms. Pac-Man.
I also enjoy reading, volunteering and collecting Wonder Woman memorabilia – something I’ve been doing since 2019. My home office is decked out with collectibles from all over. It’s pretty fitting to love Wonder Woman while working in a museum – a real Diana Prince moment.
If you were building the ultimate playlist for a six-hour road trip, which artists would make the cut?
That’s a hard one. But lately, I’ve been listening to Pastor Mike Jr., Innu, Michael Jackson, Adele, Maroon 5, and Phil Thompson. I could have kept going. Let’s just say we would definitely be jamming! Also, plenty of old school and new rap.
If you could go back and give your younger self some advice, what would it be?
I’d tell her that it’s okay not to be okay – but it’s never okay to give up. When you see a hurdle, jump it, but don’t quit. Don’t quit on yourself, because someone out there is depending on you to succeed. Keep your head up and stay looking up. It’s going to hurt sometimes, but you will survive, and you’ll be better for it. God has a perfect plan for your life, and he’ll equip you with everything you need to see it through.
